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Getting a divorce is something that no one wants to think they will have to go through in their lives, but it is something you might find yourself having to cope with if your marriage breaks down. As you grow up and mature, it is often the case that you can grow apart from your partner and this can take many forms. Sometimes, it is as simple as realizing that you are no longer in love with them; other times, it can be caused by not having the same life goals anymore or arguing all the time, creating an unpleasant home environment.
The following article has compiled some useful information to help your divorce proceedings go smoothly and limit the emotional impact on you both.
Bringing up a divorce with your spouse
First of all, you need to know how to approach the conversation of divorce with your current partner, as this conversation will set the tone for how you both approach seeking a divorce.
Before you bring it up, you need to be entirely sure that you want to end things as, after you say you want a divorce, you will hurt your partner and the chances are that if you change your mind, they won’t want to give things another go. Can the problems you face be solved and, more importantly, do you want to put in the effort to solve them?
Once you have decided that divorce is the option you want, make sure you choose the right time and setting to tell your spouse. Try to do it in your shared home when it is just the two of you so that they have the privacy they need to go through their emotions. Alongside this, let a friend or family member know you are going to do this and agree that you can stay over at their place in case your partner needs some time to themselves.
Make sure you both have a clean break
Once you have brought up wanting a divorce, you need to find ways of having a clean break following your decision to divorce because it can be a lengthy process.
Make sure you are there if they want to talk things through for the first month, but after this, you need to establish some boundaries so that you don’t fall back into a relationship that made you unhappy or gives your ex the impression there is hope to save the marriage.
Get proper legal representation
You need to get yourself a good divorce lawyer Lake County, IL to ensure that the legal aspect of the divorce is simple. During this time, you may feel like you should try and get all you can in terms of money and possessions so that you come out on top, but this can cause even more hurt to your partner. Always try and be fair with the way things are divided up and try to have a conversation with your ex before you begin the proceedings so that you are on the same page.
Divorce is never an easy process for anyone involved, including when a loved one is going through it. It can be heartbreaking to see someone who you care about experience trying times. The upside is that you can be there to support them and cheer them so they can get through it in one piece.
There’s no right or wrong way to be there for someone else, but there are best practices to help make sure you’re making their situation easier on them. It’s important you stay positive and continue to tell them all is going to be okay as they work through their emotions.
Help Them Find A Lawyer
One way you can support a loved one who’s going through a divorce is to help them find a lawyer. You can go online to find and get in touch with family law solicitors who are experts in this area and can offer up useful advice. They will be by your side and try their hardest to ensure you achieve a successful outcome for you and your family.
Cook Them Meals
It can be difficult to take care of yourself and eat healthy when you’re going through a divorce. What will help your loved one out is if you cook for them and bring over delicious and nutritious meals they can enjoy. This will take some of the stress they’re feeling off their shoulders and allow them to continue caring for their kids even when involved in this type of situation. Although it’s a small gesture, this kind of thoughtfulness is sure to go a long way.
Be there to Listen
What’s most important is that you’re there for your loved one and lend an open ear to listen. Try to stay away from passing any judgments or offering advice when they aren’t in the mood to receive it. Simply let them know you’re available to hear them out and take in any information they’re willing to share. It may help to invite them over for coffee or go on a walk so you two can discuss what’s going on in private without distractions.
Practice Gratitude Together
You can support your loved one who’s going through a divorce by practicing gratitude together. Remind them about all they do have going for them and all the blessings already in their life. This type of exercise will help you each to see that you have a lot to be thankful for and will allow you both to keep your spirits high. Encourage your loved one to keep a journal or write down and review a list of daily items they feel grateful for.
You being there for your loved one will certainly help them out during this difficult time. While divorce is never easy, it is possible to get through it with the right approach and tools. Use this advice so you can better support your loved one and strive to make the situation a bit easier on them.
Have you ever walked from one comfortably heated room to another area in your house that feels cold and drafty? If so, you’re not alone. Even if you have a high-quality HVAC system, you’re likely to experience rooms of varying temperatures.
Why does your HVAC system not heat your home at a uniform temperature?
There are a variety of factors at play that impact the temperature of a room. For instance, the direction the room faces and how many windows are present can greatly affect a room’s temperature. It’s a problem we see often at Entek. But fortunately, there is a way to control the variable temperatures throughout your home. It’s called zone heating and we’ll help you determine if it’s the right solution for you.
What is zone heating?
Just as the name suggests, this type of heating divides areas of your home into different zones. Each zone is heated according to its needs, with each area being controlled by its own thermostat.
There are a few ways to integrate zone heating into your home. Electric baseboard heaters, for instance, supply heat to individual rooms and are one way to integrate zone heating.
Another way to employ zoned heating is by installing a zoned HVAC system. If you select this option your Entek service technician will install zone dampers in the ductwork of your home. The unit control panel will then regulate the temperature of each room by opening and closing the dampers according to each zone’s thermostat reading. The good news is that you don’t need to purchase a new system if you’re interested in converting to zone heating. Nearly all forced air systems can be retrofitted for zone control.
So what are the benefits of zone heating?
Obviously, one benefit is increased comfort. You’ll no longer have to put on a sweater when you move from one room of your home to a cooler area. With zone heating, the room temperature can be controlled so that every area of your house is uniformly heated. Also, if you live with other people who prefer a different thermostat setting, zone heating can be a great way to satisfy everyone and keep the entire family feeling comfortable. However, there are a number of other benefits to zone heating as well.
An important benefit is that zone heating increases your cost savings on utility bills. According to the Department of Energy, using zone heating for your home can translate to more than 20% savings on your energy bill. Using zone heating can also extend the lifespan of your equipment. With zone heating, you can choose not to heat areas of your home that are normally not in use, such as your guest bedroom. This can keep your HVAC system from working on overload to heat up all areas of your home.
Using your equipment only when necessary means it will last longer than an HVAC system that’s in constant use. Over time, these savings can really add up.
Zoned heating systems are also more convenient to use. Many of them come with remote controls so that you can adjust the temperature settings from the comfort of your favorite armchair. Zoned heating offers the luxury of modern convenience coupled with increased comfort and cost savings over time.
While zone heating will save you money in the long run, the initial cost is likely to be greater than the purchase and installation of standard HVAC equipment. While it’s certainly a worthwhile economical investment, the extra expense is something to keep in mind when budgeting for a new system. Also keep in mind that the installation of a zoned heating system can be tricky and should only be performed by a certified HVAC technician.
In addition to the upfront cost, a zoned heating system has many more parts than your standard HVAC system. This means that the system may require more maintenance since there are more parts that could potentially malfunction. Repairs are also likely to be more complicated and require professional expertise. In other words, zoned heating systems often need a little more TLC than the standard counterparts, but regular maintenance appointments with your Entek technician will ensure that your equipment is running smoothly and save you the expense of costly repairs.
Is zone heating the right option for you?
Zone heating systems are convenient options for use in multi-level homes. As most people know, heat rises and that’s one reason rooms on different floors can greatly vary in temperature. If your home has additions, such as an attic or basement, you may also benefit from a zone HVAC system. In general, homes with certain architectural features such as large windows, high ceilings, or loft spaces are also likely to greatly benefit from a zone heating approach.
An important thing to remember is that your home should be properly insulated before you install zone heating. If you’re losing energy through leaky windows or other poorly insulated areas, then you likely won’t benefit from a zone heating system. You’ll first have to fix the areas of your home where you’re losing energy. Often times this is sufficient to fix the issue itself. In any case, work with an HVAC professional to make sure your home is properly insulated before installing a zone heating system.
Entek offers h ome performance energy tests to help you assess where you could benefit from energy improvements and savings. We can help make HVAC system recommendations based on your family’s needs and budget. Schedule an appointment for an in-home visit today. We’ll help you determine the best way to heat things up so you’ll be comfy all year long.
As a mom, one of your main priorities is to take care of your family. We are constantly trying to keep our children healthy, happy and away from harm. However, with rising inflation rates and cost of living, many families are being faced with the ultimate question every month: How do we make our limited budget last? The average household in America is carrying approximately $137 000 in consumer debt.
Interestingly, Americans aged 35 to 54 are the ones carrying the highest levels, aligning with people expanding their families and houses or paying college tuition for their children. With the rising debt costs, mortgages and costs of childcare it may seem impossible to manage family expenses on a tight budget much less to have some spare cash left over. However, with a few simple tricks, you can be better equipped to guide your family towards sticking to your budget.
Don’t Underestimate The Value Of Research
Often, we can get caught up with the convenience and ease offered by products or services. We see it in the grocery stores as we shop, when renewing our car insurance or even with our mobile phone contracts. Sometimes it can feel much simpler to get those prepped meals or renew with the same broadband supplier rather than take the time to shop around. However, those few minutes spent doing research and looking at other deals on the market can pay off, and in a big way.
The 2016 labor Statistics figures show that Americans spend 12 percent of their income on insurance and pensions alone and with record levels of student and credit card debt, more people are living beyond their means. Take some time to research the offers on your expenses including utilities and approach your current supplier to inquire about matching your quotes. Make use of the variety of online comparison websites to not only compare great deals but also keep on track with your credit score and finances. Finally, be sure to get a range of quotes so you are sure to make an informed decision and do not be afraid to negotiate!
Embrace The Environment
It may seem like an odd tip. How does becoming environmentally friendly filter into helping your family stay on track with a tight budget? Well, becoming environmentally conscious can mean great savings in many departments. While items such as plastic water bottles or disposable lunch storage containers can often seem like the cheaper option, in the long run, they do not work out that way. Reusable products may carry higher costs but it is also an investment for the future. With disposable items, you would have to continue spending cash on that items repeatedly. Before you know it, these items would have repaid their costs and more.
While we are on the topic of reusing, consider buying second hand as well. Garage sales and thrift stores are great sites to find second-hand kids clothing, toys and books. Often, there is a misconception about buying second-hand items but in truth, as long as the item is in good condition then the fact that it is preused is irrelevant to its function. Another benefit: you save a lot of cash by buying second hand, allowing you to put it to better use.
Spend More Time In Your Kitchen
Get to know your kitchen again. This room in your home is one of the most useful and best places to help you stay within your budget. The average American family can spend approximately 12.5 percent of their budget on food purchases while eating out accounts for about 43 percent of their annual food expenditures. To put that in numbers, that equates to about $7000 each year. Making changes in the food department is one of the most impactful and immediate ways you can stay on track.
Cooking at home tips such as batch cooking and meal planning are great ways keep busy families fed and save cash at the same time. As a bonus, cooking together with your kids can be a fun bonding experience for you both. However, be smart about your food usage and waste less. The United States of America is one of the country leading the food wastage epidemic currently. Sticking to a budget does not have to be overwhelming. With a little planning and a few handy tricks, you and your family can lead a healthy happy life, all on a budget.
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and Happy New Years from my family to yours!
Life has been so busy with this wonderful holiday season and it is not over yet! I have had almost zero time to work on my blog. My birthday (we won't say which one) was on the 23rd. My husband took me out to Red Lobster, which was very nice. He hates seafood so it was a compromise. He did eat fish and chips and I ordered a seafood trio. After the bread and salad, however, I was much too full to eat another bite, so I ended up taking my entire meal home, go figure. I never did end up eating it later. Later that evening my husband and I actually finished out Christmas shopping, much later than I even thought I would. (I started Christmas shopping in October!) Life has just been a whirlwind of holiday chaos!
On my way to birthday dinner!
Christmas Eve. started out very sad for me and my children. My father-in-law is losing his battle with oral cancer. We went over to my in-laws earlier in the day to help them clean up and prepare for Christmas day dinner. I just could not stop crying seeing this precious man who was once a huge, tough invincible guy turn into a fragile, weakened shell of himself as this horrific cancer robs him of everything. He cannot speak, eat or even communicate any more. The hospice tells us he only has days left. My husband is losing his Daddy and my children are losing their Grandpa.
My sister and her six children came up from Idaho the day before Christmas Eve. and we had a wonderful Christmas Eve. dinner with her and her kids at my parents home. My youngest brother, Shaun and his wife and new baby boy were visiting from Rexburg. There was lots of family there. I love my family so much! My little Braxton adores his cousins and so that had an absolute blast together. After dinner, there came a knock at the door and in walked Santa Claus! The children (as well as the adults) were so excited! He knew each child by name and had a special gift for each child. It totally made my night, it was so magical to see the joy on each child's face!
After Santa left, we all opened some gifts from my sweet parents. As usual there were heaps of wrapping paper and bows everywhere, but oh, so much joy!
Cassidy and baby Wesley on his first Christmas.
Look what Jonathan got!!! (Just kidding! That is Braxton's Darth Vader.)
My handsome husband is getting lots of help opening his present from baby Wesley.
Of course, Christmas Eve. would not be complete without the manger scene! Uncle Shaun is reading the Nativity Story. This year we have a real baby Jesus! Braxton is playing Joseph.
Later that night, after we finally got Braxton to bed (at our house) Santa worked tirelessly to get everything ready for Christmas morning! At last, Christmas morning came. Braxton must have been a very good boy this year, because he got a new electric guitar and amp!
After we opened all of our presents at our house that morning, we headed off to Grandma and Grandpa Newton's for a bittersweet Christmas. Very sad that it will likely be Grandpa's last Christmas, but joyous because everyone was together.
On our way to Grandpa and Grandma Newton's!
Kendallyn and sweet Grandpa Newton......we love this man!!!
Braxton amongst the Christmas mess!
Grandpa, Kendi and me..................................
Ever since Christmas, we have been busy, busy, busy visiting with Grandpa and Grandma Newton, doing some after Christmas shopping so that my kids could go spend their gift cards. (At the mall the day after Christmas.....................NEVER AGAIN!) My sister and I took our kiddos to SkateWorld on the 27th. My sister, Kim (who owns Shopwithmemama.com ) came into town with her adorable kids for a visit. It was so precious to have seven children ages 8 and under running around having such a blast! (Plus five teenagers.) We had so much fun together. I love my family so much!
My family will be spending New Year's Eve. at my parents home once again with my mom and dad, my brother Scott, my sister, Jen and her six kids. Sweet Jen will be leaving New Year's Day with her family and I will miss them sooooo much! That about wraps up my holiday celebrations and I am looking forward to a prosperous and wonderful New Year 2014!!!! I wish all of you a very happy and safe New Year!!!!
Today I took my sweet mom tanning and shopping while my wonderful dad watched my little Braxton for me. They played Wii for two hours.
My family is so wonderful and supportive of me. I am so very blessed to have them in my life. My parents, husband and my in-laws are rallying around me and helping me whenever I need them in my busy life. My three sisters, their spouses and my two brothers are awesome, too.
I love my awesome children.
I am just so thankful for their love and support in every way.
My family has really come together to circle me with their love lately and will do anything and everything for me, especially when I need them in difficult times.