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When you become a mom, whether it’s for the first time or you’ve had other children before, you want to be perfect. You don’t want to be perfect for yourself, but you do want to be perfect for your child – you know that they deserve the very best and you want to give it to them.
The problem is, no one is perfect, and that includes mothers. We all try, and we try very hard, but sometimes things won’t work out the way we wanted, or we’ll feel disappointed in something we did or said, and then we’ll pile the guilt upon ourselves more and more.
This does nothing but make us less happy and less available for our children. What we need to do is focus on becoming the best mom possible, not the most perfect mom, and here are some ways to do it.
Be A Role Model
One of the best things you can do as a mother is to be a role model for your child. Behave in the way you want them to behave, show them that hard work is something to be proud of, and let them know you are not perfect but that you are trying. This latter is perhaps the most important point; if they understand this, they will be less hard on themselves growing up and will be happier for it.
Being a role model is not about doing everything right; it’s about seeing what has gone wrong and working out a way to fix it. A drug habit is not something you want your children to copy from you, but if you acknowledge the problem and go to Forwardrecovery.com to detox and become well, this is good role model behavior, for example. If you are having trouble finding a job that’s not ideal, but showing your children that you are trying is.
Comparing yourself to other moms is never a good idea. What is the point? It will only make you feel worried that you are doing something wrong if you spot another mother feeding their child differently to the way you do it, or dressing their child differently, or behaving differently.
The truth is, since there is no rule book for being a mother, there is no one set way to do it, and everyone will work it out for themselves. Just because you do things one way and someone else does things another that doesn’t mean anyone is wrong.
Take Care Of Yourself
To become the best mom possible, you need to be there for your children no matter how old they are or what they need. To do this, you need to take care of yourself first. That means eating a good, well-balanced diet and exercising regularly, of course.
It also means that you should relax when you can and take time out to do so. Take a long, bubble bath, light some candles, have a spa day, go for a walk, read a book, or listen to music – do what makes you happy and keeps you feeling good, and you can be a better, calmer mom.
You’ve heard it said that a mother’s work is never done, and how true that is! Even in this day of equality, moms are busier than ever, especially when holding down a full-time job while taking care of a family. That is not to say that dads don’t have their hands full as well, but this is about moms and how their day never seems to end.
How many days have you ‘almost’ made it through until 3 o’clock rolls around and all of a sudden that extra boost of energy you experienced during lunch seems to drain away, leaving you more exhausted than you were before? Well, take heart because there are some tips to help you revitalize long enough to make it through dinner and the bedtime ritual your kids have come to expect.
1. Get up and Get Moving!
If you have an office job, probably the worst thing you can do is to sit there without moving. Even if you have tasks at hand that prevent you from moving about the office, take a restroom break to get you up and walking if at all possible. Walk as quickly as you can to get the blood circulating and take a few very deep breaths. Oxidizing all those cells in your body will bring a bit of energy you were lacking, so do make this a ritual every time you feel your energy waning.
2. OTC Supplements with a “Stimulant Effect”
Here is where you need to be a bit careful. Sometimes those energizing supplements can be as dangerous as prescription drugs, so take the time to do your homework. One of the more popular supplements on the market is Kratom capsules, which you can simply swallow with a glass of water. Check out the information on https://thekratomconnection.com/kratom-capsules/ to learn how much you should take.
3. Vitamin B12 Is Highly Recommended
Also, you can find energy drinks made from all natural ingredients with the main active ingredient being vitamin B12. However, it is known that all the B vitamins work better in a complex together, so remember to check whether any other B vitamins are in the drink. Also, you will want to stay away from those energy drinks with high amounts of caffeine or sugar. While you may get an instant rush of energy, the resulting crash and burn will make you more tired than you are now – if you can even imagine that.
As a final note, although Kratom from the Maeng Da genus is closely related to coffee, the active constituent of this natural product doesn’t affect the body in the same way as caffeine does. You will also want to carefully monitor the amount you take because a smaller dosage gives you that burst of energy and a sense of wellbeing, but a larger dose may not be appropriate. In any case, you are always advised to talk to your doctor before trying any new supplements. Some people don’t tolerate new products well, so you will want to know if this is right for you. With that in mind, remember that you should never do anything in excess. As the old saying goes, enough is enough.
I have had to take a brief 'break' from my blogging as of late. I have hardly had the time to breathe, let alone do many product reviews lately (although I am itching to get back to that, because I hate to let anything slide.)
Life has been very busy as I am getting ready for my oldest son's graduation, as well as keeping my pre-schooler happy and occupied every day. With my soon to be graduate, it means planning the details of his graduation party and trying to get everything in to place. Tickets for his graduation? Mental note: Must call the high school tomorrow and ask about that. His graduation announcements? OH CRAP! I never ordered any, so I must hustle my bustle to get myself to the local printer in our small town and MAKE MY OWN, dang it. That means selecting a few good pictures of my son and figuring out a nice layout and some wording. BUT, then again, we have NO relatives to send them too, anyways, so........why am I doing this? My son doesn't seem to care much about it anyway, but it is so that he can be acknowleged for this major milestone in his life, and I love my boy, so I will do my best.
And then, since we are going on our second MUCH NEEDED week of sunshine, I am almost doing backflips to keep my five-year-old doing OUTDOORS activities, like visiting every park in a 20 mile vincinity. I know I don't HAVE to do this, but there is nothing that makes me happier than to see my little boy play, climb, dig in the sand and interact with other kids. We have had serious CABIN FEVER when it RAINED ALL of April, and I am trying to milk this SUNSHINE for all it is worth.
Another thing I need to focus on is my second oldest daughter is graduating from 8th grade, and I MUST make certain everything is special for her, too. That means we need to find her a pretty dress ASAP!
AND, my husband has been out of town for work, so I AM ON MY OWN doing all of this planning and thinking and I am NOT GREAT at this stuff, so I am OVERWHELMED sometimes with things that others Moms probably find EASY. I know my older sister is practically Martha Stewart, so I compare myself to her quite a lot, and I WISH I wouldn't, but I do!
Alright, I must stop rambling, here. Please wish me luck with everything!
My soon to be gratuate, and my almost Kindergartener
If you are like me, you have had moments of wishing your little one could stay little. I often find myself almost mourning the passing of my precious four year old's fleeting babyhood. Sometimes I wish I could keep him this age forever and ever so that he can always fit in my arms.
This beautifully illustrated and lovingly written book, 'If I Could Keep You Little' by Marianne Richmond echoes the sentiment of mothers who wish to keep their children little, but yet also encourage them to grow and develop to their fullest potential.
Here is an example:
"If I could keep you little,
I’d tell you stories every night.
But then I’d miss you reading
the words you’ve learned by sight."
Awwwww! This book makes me cry! Children do grow up way too fast and although it would be wonderful to be able to hold onto them forever and ever, it would be selfish to hold them back from blooming into the person they were meant to become.
I love this book! It would be the perfect gift for any Mommy or Daddy or sweet litte child.
Buy this book at your favorite bookstore or at Amazon.com
All I Can Handle, I'm no Mother Theresa by Kim Stagliano.
I really enjoyed reading this book. Kim Stagliano is very witty and humorous. I
think she and I would get along very well. I love the way she tells her story.She adds humor to an otherwise grim and mostly undiscussed topic, being a mother of three daughters with autism. Kim does not sugarcoat it.
Kim reveals how she has dealt with coming to terms that her daughters are autistic and how difficult of a journey her life has been. Kim takes things as they come, one day at a time. She tells how she and her very supportive husband, Mark, have trudged through many trials raising their children. It seems that life tossed them many a curveball which include financial problems, frequent moves and her daughter getting lost in a large hotel while on vacation.
You really cannot even begin to comprehend what it is like to have a child with autism until you have a child with autism, or unless you get a peek into what life is like for Kim as the mother to three autistic kids.
While I do not have children with autism, I feel I can relate to Kim. Life is hard enough anyway with non-disabled children. Kim is a very strong person who seems to weather the storms of life pretty well and with a great sense of humor, too! And no matter how difficult life gets, Kim loves her daughters very much and is a wonderful mother to them.
Kim is a nationally recognized autism autism advocate and speaker.
I Did it!
I just returned home last Saturday from Nampa, Idaho, where I was priviledged to
have witnessed the birth of my younger sister's sixth child, a beautiful baby
girl they named Lauryn Samantha.
I always adore watching the miracle of a child being born, and since my sisters
and I are so very close, we always have welcomed one another during the
deliveries of our babies. Never does it cease to be amazing to watch a new
precious life come into the world.
I was the 'cameraman' because I wanted to help out in any way I could. The
delivery went so smoothly, my sister could not have asked for a more wonderful
birth for her last baby. it all went very smoothly. My mom and me and Grandma
Gaye went back to the house at 3 am or so. I spentthe night on an airmattress on
the floor which felt like heaven since I was so tired. Little Sadie (whoSE TWO)
wanted to be up at 6:30 am, so as tired as we all were, we didn't get too much
sleep. I spent my day playing with those little nieces and nephews of mine that
all live in Idaho and I barely get to get to know them as the precious little
individuals they area. I got to fly home to Oregon. I hadn't been on a plane for
10 years! But......it was actually fun! Good times, let 'em roll! (I know it
took a week for me to post this, but, let's just say I have been a bit busy. I'd
LOVE to tell you, but I just cannot yet......I am on a 'secret' mission.......tee
Sweet baby Lauyrn, my newest neice.
Today I jst needed a little bit of time to myself. The kids are in school, and my husband took the baby out and ahhhhhhhhhh, it just feels nice to be home alone. I do not think I have had a moment to myself for a few weeks now, and it feels great. No, I am not going to catch up on housework or bills.....although I should, but that would not be true 'ME' time. So I think I will just meditate in front of the computer this morning. Bliss!
Today II'll mostly take a chance
To write my blog in poetic stance:
My world as Mommy changes each day:
The hairs on my head will surely turn grey.,
My oldest son has a girfrield he really does ' like..'
His demeanor has changed and he's really polite.
At 13, My Kendi ain't too much into boys,
She's still my baby who plays with her toys....
(well, not really, just her pets in our yard,)
And my eleven year old Myelie is such a card.
She's funny and bright and playful and sweet,
But there is Braxton, my boy who has barely turned three......
He is the one who drives me up a tree.
I love him and my other kids with all of my heart.........
but they certainly takes their turns as a "FART."
Okay, so I just emerged from having a five minute splashy-bath (that's all I have time for if I am lucky.) I had planned to use that much needed cleansing time to shave my rather densley forested legs, but alas, I came to realize that there were NO dry or clean towels, nor any sharp or new razors. So, just to let you know, I had the most amusing time trying to shave with just a razor head that had NO handle. Ummmmmm, okay. The only soap I could find was baby soap, and then I had to use a roll of paper towels that I got for free to dry off. Earlier today, (since the kids had no school due to conferences which I forgot about, ooops) I just needed to get OUT of this insane house and of course, bring all the kids with me. My destination was thwarted when I took the wrong exit and ended up at my parents house so that the kids could drive around their baby brother in the go-cart while it was still a sunny day. My parents weren't there and so I left and took the wrong exit several more times (traffic makes me very paranoid.) I dropped off Jonathan at Guitar Center to use his 50.00 gift card, (although getting lost made gas cost about 42.00.) And, I refuse to go into Guitar Center because not only do I hate it as much as I hate going into GI Joes, but Braxton of course wants to turn on all the amps and play the guitars, too. So to spend a little time, I then attempted to go to Costco to get the kids cheap food in the food area. I just ordered a couple things and then spent 20 minutes watching Braxton dip his polish hotdog into his ketchup and just lick it off, never a bite, mind you. Then, I had to go into Guitar Center and face (ZZ Top wannabees and transsexuals with weird piercings that look like fangs in their lips) to go get Jonathan, who was just beginning his shopping and lead him on outta there with his purchase. Okay, whatever. So I finally got home Molalla. Well, that was my day. How was yours? I needed to ramble.....................and wow, I have razorburn.......................oooosh.