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Separating from a partner can result in many raw emotions for both parties, which could lead to much conflict and tension. However, if you have a child together, you must find ways to effectively communicate with each other.
A separation can be upsetting for children, which is why you must put their well-being ahead of your own feelings. To make the transition as smooth as possible, read the following advice on how to maintain an amicable relationship for your kids.
Set an Example
It might make it difficult to maintain an amicable relationship with your ex-partner if they are awkward or cruel when you meet. However, rising to their bait will only amplify the problem. Whenever they test your patience, take a deep breath and aim to maintain a mature, calm demeanor, which will set an example to both your children and your ex-spouse.
If you and your ex are experiencing a breakdown in communication, and cannot come to any form of truce, it might be worthwhile undertaking mediation. An objective onlooker could help you to reach an agreement on the best course of action for moving forward, which will allow your children to enjoy a happy childhood and a positive relationship with both parents.
Avoid the Blame Game
Children are more in tune with their environment than you might think. For this reason, you must avoid playing the blame game in front of your kids, or they might believe they need to pick a side.
Even if you’re upset or angry with your ex-partner, you must bite your tongue and avoid saying negative comments to your son or daughter. If you have strong feelings you need to get off your chest, confide in your trusted friends, family members or a therapist, as they could help you to work through the negative emotions.
Remain in Close Contact with Your Children
While you might no longer be in a romantic relationship with your children’s mother or father, this shouldn’t come at the cost of your relationship with your kids. Your parental duties will remain the same, which is why you must regularly see and communicate with your children, and financially support your partner if you no longer live inside the family home. If you don’t, you could receive a message similar to this TSR IG parent.
Never Ask Your Child About Your Ex
While it is perfectly acceptable to ask your children how they spend their time with a parent, you should avoid asking personal questions regarding your ex’s life. Not only might they misinterpret your questions, which can cause unnecessary confusion, but they could relay the information back to your ex-partner, which can lead to additional conflict or tension.
Remaining amicable with an ex-spouse might not always feel easy, but it is necessary for your children’s wellbeing. So, work through your emotions away from your kids, maintain a calm, mature demeanor and avoid interfering with your ex’s personal life, which will ensure your children have a healthy, happy childhood.
I just felt compelled to write a little ditty about what makes me feel the happiest in this lifetime, and that is definitely and without a doubt my family. I will start off by saying I am truly blessed with the most wonderful parents on earth. They are the greatest Mom and Dad that I could have ever been blessed with. They are there for me in everything I do, helping me along with any of life's problems, big or small. My sweet Dad has to undergo knee surgery on Wednesday, the 29th. This will be my chance to help my parents. I will be at their beck and call. My frail little mother will probably need my help, although she does not often ask for anything. She had relied on my Dad for everything all of these years, so I hope she will actually swallow her pride and ASK me!
My husband is a wonderful man who has been working so very hard lately. Hard times are a-coming, however, due to a lull in his company. No jobs right now. He is a sheet metal foreman. When the going is good, it is GREAT. When it slows down, well, it sucks!
My son, Jonathan is 18 years old and a senior in high school.
Wow, my little boy will be graduating! He gets GREAT grades and stays busy writing songs that blow me away. He and his band, Harken can certainly put on a great show! They get better EVERY time! Listen here to his latest recordings.
Kendallyn is 16, and she is so beautiful, kind, passive sweet and humble.
She has her first boyfriend who seems like a gentleman. Now that dance team is over, she has been painting quite a bit. Here is an example of her work.......it is amazing!
My third child, Myelie will be 14 on March 14th.
She is my baby girl, and I am not excited for her to date, either, but she has her share of boys asking her out on almost a daily basis. She is so beautiful! She is very interested in acting. She is a member of AIA, Actors in Action. I just need to update her profile, get some current pics. up and she'll be good to go. She got to be in a TV movie one time when she was 8 years old, but that was not enough for her, of course:) Myelie also loves to paint! See her work below:
Last but not least is my little Braxton. He is five years old and the love of our lives. He can certainly be a stinker, but he is our precious baby boy. He loves to play video games, go swimming, play outside on the trampoline and play with his favorite cousins, Macey and Zaden. Braxton also loves to attend his big brother, Jonathan's band performances, where you can see Braxton hanging out with all of the teenagers, thinking he is one of them! He is so cute!!!! We want to get him a drum set, because he certainly shows an interest in drumming!
And, I almost forgot to mention that braxton loves sledding an dis learning to snowboard!
Family is the best, and I would not trade mine for ANYTHING on earth! You can desire money, riches and fame, but in the end WHO CARES about that stuff? That is just STUFF! You can't take it with you!
Family will always be there for you forever!!!!