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Aging is a simple part of life and it affects everyone at all stages in their journey. As we watch our parents turn into seniors, facing the effects of aging can become a harder pill to swallow as we begin to care for them, the same ways they cared for us as children. Fortunately, when they are still in good physical and mental health and have no troubles living independently, easing into elderly care can be taken one step at a time.
The moment you begin to notice any drastic changes in their behavior or health, you should consider looking into care options to ensure their quality of life is maintained throughout the final years.
Living independently and aging alone in the comfort of their own home may sound ideal to your parent, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best option. Most seniors will want to continue living out of their own homes despite the many benefits an assisted living community may offer. If you reason that it’s unsafe or unhealthy for your parent to remain independent, it may be time to have a chat.
Talking to an elderly parent about transitioning into an assisted living home is not easy, especially when they believe they’re completely fine living alone. If you’re having trouble convincing them to make the change, these tips might prove useful.
Getting the family doctor involved - If the top reason you're considering a new living arrangement for your parent has anything to do with a medical diagnosis, enlisting the help of the family doctor may provide deeper clarity than a simple request from Mom or Dad’s own kin.
●Recruiting siblings to help - The more the merrier. It might just take a team of loved ones to convince Mom or Dad to trust the leap of faith.
●Highlight the perks of assisted living - There are many benefits of living in an assisted community that your parent may not know about. Compile a list of the most attractive features that highlight the freedoms they’ll still have.
●Keep the discussion open - Don’t make it a one-sided conversation. Hear them out, and encourage the discussion by going over the many pros and cons of assisted living.
Everyone's financial situation is a bit different. Though it can be difficult to talk money with your parents, it will be important to do so as they grow older. At the 65-year-old mark, taxes tend to change for seniors. You can hire the help of a tax professional or do the research alongside your parent to go through the changes they can expect to see.
If your elderly parents are healthy enough to continue living at home, it may be a good idea to explore the finances tied to their house. Use a free reverse mortgage calculator to open a discussion about how they can convert equity into cash. With a reverse mortgage, your parents can use their accumulated wealth to cover a number of costs ranging from healthcare to credit card debts.
Retirement shouldn’t feel financially taxing, and the fruits of a reverse mortgage can add more breathing room in the money department.
As we get older, our bodies, bones, and internal organs age, too. We become more susceptible to injury and aches that require more serious care and prompt treatment. If you’ve started to notice that Mom or Dad has been scheduling check-ups less frequently or battling colds for longer periods of time, it could be a good time to sit down and chat.
It’s in everyone’s best interest to start this conversation before their health takes a foreboding turn for the worse. Having the talk early ensures that your parent understands that you’re just looking out for their wellbeing, not trying to nag them or micromanage.
In the case that a parent has complained about difficulty walking, seeing, or driving, it’s best to accommodate them as soon as possible rather than waiting for their condition to escalate. This could be as simple as introducing a walker into their daily routine or scheduling an optometrist appointment to fashion a suitable pair of glasses.
As your parent ages into their 80s and 90s, it may be the safest decision to consider a nursing home. These private institutions provide around-the-clock nursing care so that your elderly parent is never far from immediate help. If you foresee a nursing home being the next step in your parent’s life, have the conversation early so you both have time to come to an amicable decision.
There is nothing in life that properly prepares you for caring for an elderly parent. With these key tips and words of advice, you’ll be able to confidently approach the next step in both of your lives!
Separating from a partner can result in many raw emotions for both parties, which could lead to much conflict and tension. However, if you have a child together, you must find ways to effectively communicate with each other.
A separation can be upsetting for children, which is why you must put their well-being ahead of your own feelings. To make the transition as smooth as possible, read the following advice on how to maintain an amicable relationship for your kids.
Set an Example
It might make it difficult to maintain an amicable relationship with your ex-partner if they are awkward or cruel when you meet. However, rising to their bait will only amplify the problem. Whenever they test your patience, take a deep breath and aim to maintain a mature, calm demeanor, which will set an example to both your children and your ex-spouse.
If you and your ex are experiencing a breakdown in communication, and cannot come to any form of truce, it might be worthwhile undertaking mediation. An objective onlooker could help you to reach an agreement on the best course of action for moving forward, which will allow your children to enjoy a happy childhood and a positive relationship with both parents.
Avoid the Blame Game
Children are more in tune with their environment than you might think. For this reason, you must avoid playing the blame game in front of your kids, or they might believe they need to pick a side.
Even if you’re upset or angry with your ex-partner, you must bite your tongue and avoid saying negative comments to your son or daughter. If you have strong feelings you need to get off your chest, confide in your trusted friends, family members or a therapist, as they could help you to work through the negative emotions.
Remain in Close Contact with Your Children
While you might no longer be in a romantic relationship with your children’s mother or father, this shouldn’t come at the cost of your relationship with your kids. Your parental duties will remain the same, which is why you must regularly see and communicate with your children, and financially support your partner if you no longer live inside the family home. If you don’t, you could receive a message similar to this TSR IG parent.
Never Ask Your Child About Your Ex
While it is perfectly acceptable to ask your children how they spend their time with a parent, you should avoid asking personal questions regarding your ex’s life. Not only might they misinterpret your questions, which can cause unnecessary confusion, but they could relay the information back to your ex-partner, which can lead to additional conflict or tension.
Remaining amicable with an ex-spouse might not always feel easy, but it is necessary for your children’s wellbeing. So, work through your emotions away from your kids, maintain a calm, mature demeanor and avoid interfering with your ex’s personal life, which will ensure your children have a healthy, happy childhood.
I just felt compelled to write a little ditty about what makes me feel the happiest in this lifetime, and that is definitely and without a doubt my family. I will start off by saying I am truly blessed with the most wonderful parents on earth. They are the greatest Mom and Dad that I could have ever been blessed with. They are there for me in everything I do, helping me along with any of life's problems, big or small. My sweet Dad has to undergo knee surgery on Wednesday, the 29th. This will be my chance to help my parents. I will be at their beck and call. My frail little mother will probably need my help, although she does not often ask for anything. She had relied on my Dad for everything all of these years, so I hope she will actually swallow her pride and ASK me!
My husband is a wonderful man who has been working so very hard lately. Hard times are a-coming, however, due to a lull in his company. No jobs right now. He is a sheet metal foreman. When the going is good, it is GREAT. When it slows down, well, it sucks!
My son, Jonathan is 18 years old and a senior in high school.
Wow, my little boy will be graduating! He gets GREAT grades and stays busy writing songs that blow me away. He and his band, Harken can certainly put on a great show! They get better EVERY time! Listen here to his latest recordings.
Kendallyn is 16, and she is so beautiful, kind, passive sweet and humble.
She has her first boyfriend who seems like a gentleman. Now that dance team is over, she has been painting quite a bit. Here is an example of her work.......it is amazing!
My third child, Myelie will be 14 on March 14th.
She is my baby girl, and I am not excited for her to date, either, but she has her share of boys asking her out on almost a daily basis. She is so beautiful! She is very interested in acting. She is a member of AIA, Actors in Action. I just need to update her profile, get some current pics. up and she'll be good to go. She got to be in a TV movie one time when she was 8 years old, but that was not enough for her, of course:) Myelie also loves to paint! See her work below:
Last but not least is my little Braxton. He is five years old and the love of our lives. He can certainly be a stinker, but he is our precious baby boy. He loves to play video games, go swimming, play outside on the trampoline and play with his favorite cousins, Macey and Zaden. Braxton also loves to attend his big brother, Jonathan's band performances, where you can see Braxton hanging out with all of the teenagers, thinking he is one of them! He is so cute!!!! We want to get him a drum set, because he certainly shows an interest in drumming!
And, I almost forgot to mention that braxton loves sledding an dis learning to snowboard!
Family is the best, and I would not trade mine for ANYTHING on earth! You can desire money, riches and fame, but in the end WHO CARES about that stuff? That is just STUFF! You can't take it with you!
Family will always be there for you forever!!!!